We can and will do better! For joy is our natural inheritance and destiny. It is time for humanity, namely you in this case, to come home to the understanding of one’s power to manage, morph and mold one’s inner world to your advantage. “To one’s advantage” is a phrase that may sound manipulative to some, and yes, it is a kind of manipulation. In this case, in a very, very good way. You see, we are not a pawn or victim of life. No, you are royalty, grand and glorious, and it is appropriate that humanity, that’s you again, learn to become more mastery over one’s emotional feeling world.

For how can we truly ascend and graduate to an experience of greater inner and outer freedom, joy, expansion and peace without the clarity of being available to navigate and regulate our feelings with ease and grace? Yes, dear one, being in a powerful relationship with one’s emotions is entirely possible, and the next quantum leap for humanity. For at the moment, many on the planet don’t possess this dynamic with their feelings, therefore resulting in much inner chaos, which further creates outer chaos. Hence, the disorder we see in the world. There is not an individual who doesn’t, can’t, and will not impact the greater whole. Surely, after the recent health crisis you do see this, don’t you?  

For it’s most certainly true, there is nowhere the individual can go where they are not affected by another. The reality of our interconnectedness has never been so clear. An event in China quickly arrived at the world’s front door. An evident example of how not separate we are. Yet, let’s go back to you, for there is no expectation that you now go “out there” to save the world. Rather, know that the most significant gift we can provide the health and well being of humanity is to pay attention to and focus on developing one’s sense of freedom.  

Begin there. Begin at home and trust that self-love will stretch to every nook and corner of the planet! It could not not do so. Isn’t this just a glorious gift of inner knowing? As love, emotional relief and understanding is provided by you and for you one is saving the world! How’s that for a win/win resolution?

I’m imagining a casual yet purposeful walk about where we can discuss all things elation and freedom. Joy and abundance is our inheritance. Yet, we have not been properly taught how to best access that feeling state.

In a series of clear tips, tricks and steps, I will define a handful of the key practices for abundant living. Easy, straightforward and simple in nature, these tips are approachable. The only requirement is your heartfelt intention and practice. Yes, practice is the name of the game.

It is there.
It is there.
It is only right there. 

Similar to a mighty rocket ship set course for the moon, stars and entire galaxy, you are destined for new, fresh and abundant adventures of the heart and mind. You are not small, dear one. You are not weak, meek or inferior! We are born of gold dust, diamond pieces and the most fabulous sunsets across The Universe! You are made of god and goddess essence. There is no light that shines more bright than the light in you.

A million miles and more away the stars gaze at your sparkle and shine! They awe in the presence of your glimmer. Yet, sadly, we do not awe at the marvel and miracle of ourselves. It is in doubt and fear and self-discrimination and incrimination we hide in an illusion of disappointment and disrespect.

It is time to take our rightful, compassionate place on the throne of our own lives. No more “maybe getting by;” self-induced ridicule and hiding in the shadows of pettiness and fear. Rise, dear one, rise!

Yes, see the sun also rising on your commencement day! The all of Mother Nature yearns for us to realize the generous and gentle yet mighty power latent in ourselves. You see, this power is not something to go get, to invent, to take from anyone or anything. No, this power lies within already.

It waits
and it waits
and it patiently waits
for your awakening.

So awaken, loved one! Yes, look to the sky, the moon, the stars and so on. We all share the same DNA. Which is one of royalty, patience, compassion and love. There exists not another soul that can rise for us. The heart must be open and allowing, the mind, steady and graceful, the body, agile and prepared. We are ready, we are able, and we are being called to evolve past any soul-confusion and emerge as one’s grand and glorious self!  A crystal clear knowing of one’s inner divine and place among the divine.

It is time to clear the heart, mind and body of any insecurity. We begin in the feeling world with emotions, for it is in the mind and heart that the individual creates, learns and adopts pointless and petty storylines that unfortunately become an identity. Let’s strip away all the thinking that does not serve and only hinders greatness. The time to take flight with the strength of eagles’ wings is now.

Yes, please do play, create and experiment with each elixir and tea infusion as you practice the steps within the emotional recipes. They are the perfect complement to one another, encompassing the exact same emotional and vibrational frequency. The design and formulation is the perfect partner to the inner work.

You are pure joy; never ending joy. Raise your own frequency and vibration through these pairings with intention, ease and elation.

Download your free Magic of Mishappenings Elixir Recipe above.

This month we’ve been exploring what to do and how to BE when life doesn’t go according to plan. Our minds are determined to go in one direction but it seems like The Universe is forcing us to take another path. Nothing can feel more frustrating and inconvenient as when life doesn’t go the way we want it to go!

Yet, when the unexpected happens it’s our chance to practice unlocking the magic of mishappenings.

Mishappenings are magic because they give us the opportunity to see a bigger picture and be open to new possibilities in a way our thinking mind can not at times. When life doesn’t go according to plan we can choose to force our agenda, usually met with great resistance by life, OR we can choose to go with the flow, as they say.

Going with the flow means NOT forcing the mind-made plan but being open to whatever is happening in the present moment. Greeting it with open arms as if it were a ginormous gift.

Because IT IS A GIFT.
If you can relate to that mishappening as a gift rather than as a hassle you will find that with presence and patience the gift will unfold in front of you. It may be the person that can help you is standing on the extra long line. It’s time to take that nap you deeply need. The plans get cancelled–in a good way. You’ll see. If you look for the gift you will find the gift, and if you look for the hassle you will find the hassle.

I’d much rather the gift.
Please follow the below steps as a way to practice unlocking the magic hidden within mishappenings.

Unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings: Steps 1-6

1. Set the intention: “My intention is to go with the flow and recognize any hidden gifts or possibilities that are available to me.”

2. When something isn’t going according to plan, don’t panic.
Literally give yourself a command out loud. Say: “Stop, don’t panic.”

3. Say: “Ok, it’s time to just take a deep breath.” Then take a deep breath.

4. Remind yourself: “Mishappenings are not random and this can be good for me even though it’s not what I had planned.”

5. Daydream

6. Do Nothing

To help guide you through the process of unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings, I’ve also put together a free downloadable PDF of the recipe. Click the image or button below to access.

“Ahhh…why CAN’T everything always go the way I want it to go?” you might say.
And yes, while I can totally relate to the frustration, I’ve also been learning that The Universe usually knows what’s in my highest interest better than my ego does.

I might want to rush to work at 80 miles an hour and pick up my almond milk cappuccino in under 3 minutes BUT The Universe throws extra traffic my way and a long line at the coffee shop. WHY? Because I am too busy in the mind therefore too busy in my life to receive guidance. I need to slow the BLEEP down so I don’t get in an accident, and so that I can meet the person on line at the coffee shop who can solve my graphic design questions, for example.

When the unexpected happens it’s nature’s way of saying “You need to take a pause right now and stop panicking. Stop doing whatever your mind believes it needs to do.” Being interrupted in this way is often a gift from The Universe.

Meaning: Mishappenings give us the opportunity to practice being more flexible rather than so rigid about our plans and thoughts. When we are flexible in the mind and therefore in life it’s like opening an abundant energetic door. A door that allows in new possibilities we most likely haven’t seen before.

When you’re flexible enough to “go with the flow,” (not forcing your mind-made agenda) you can receive the answers you have been seeking even if this situation wasn’t part of your original plan.

I am sharing this recipe as mini-workshops so that one video is not too long, and it makes the learning and practicing more simplistic. In today’s video I’ll discuss steps 4-6.

Unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings: Steps 4-6

4. Remind yourself: Mishappenings are not random and this can be good for me even though it’s not what I had planned.

5. Daydream. If you are caught in traffic or on a long line, for example, use this moment to think about what you really enjoy in life or about today. Daydream about what would be fun to do in the future or later tonight. Put on music you like and zone out. Look around the room and notice what colors you like, what paintings you admire, read the coffee menu and look for something new to try that sounds delicious.

6. Sometimes there is nothing to do. Simply take a deep breath and allow yourself to relax. If you’re at home maybe just take a nap or stare out a window for a few minutes.

To help guide you through the process of unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings, I’ve also put together a free downloadabl PDF of the recipe. Click the image or button below to access.

I think it’s fair to say we’ve all experienced at least one, if not all, of these situations. And usually at a moment when we’ve deeply felt we “didn’t have time for this right now!”

Little else has felt more frustrating to me then in these moments when I’ve had a plan and agenda but life has decided not to cooperate. My mind is determined to go in one direction but somehow The Universe has it set up to force me in another direction!

I would feel interrupted and bothered when my plan didn’t go according to plan. Yes, I felt quite inconvenienced by these “blips” until I learned that mishappenings are always happening for a helpful reason!

When unexpected traffic happens or you discover a nail in your tire, for example, it can be nature’s way of saying “You need to take a pause right now and stop panicking. Stop doing whatever your mind believes it needs to do.” It is often a gift from The Universe to have a long line at the coffee shop, but of course it doesn’t seem like a gift because it seems more like a hassle.

Mishappenings give us the opportunity to practice being more flexible rather than so rigid about our plans and thoughts. When we are flexible in the mind, and therefore in life, it’s like opening an abundant energetic door. A door that allows in new possibilities we most likely haven’t seen before.

When you’re flexible enough to “go with the flow,” you can receive the answers you have been seeking even if this situation wasn’t part of your plan.“Go with the flow” means not forcing your agenda but rather being present to this moment. So much so that we recognize in the moment what is happening. For example: “Oh, I see that this is happening in a really good way. Even though it is not what I intended.” So maybe while you’re stuck on the long line you meet the person that can help you!

The small self wants to stay in control of what it wants to do and be. But life wants so much more for us than what the small self wants for us.

Practice unlocking the magic of mishappenings by following the below steps.

I am going to share this recipe in a series of mini-workshops so that one blog is not too long, and it makes the learning and practicing more simplistic. In today’s blog I’ll discuss steps 1-3.

Unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings: Steps 1-3

1. Set the intention: “My intention is to go with the flow and recognize any hidden gifts or possibilities that are available to me.”

2. When something isn’t going according to plan, don’t panic.
Literally give yourself a command out loud. Say: “Stop, don’t panic.”

3. Say: “Ok, it’s time to just take a deep breath.” Then take a deep breath.

To help guide you through the process of unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings, I’ve also put together a free downloadable PDF of the recipe. Click the Download button above to access.

I have been going through a lot of transition lately and have subsequently found that I’m attracting clients who are about 3 paces behind me in their own but highly similar transition.  This attraction is an interesting phenomenon and feels intensely on purpose. The magic of course is that I am often ahead by a few emotional miles and am able to offer not only empathetic but practical advice on how to move through with more flow and peace of mind.  (Thank you, Universe!)

I have been in varying life transitions before yet a significant lesson has recently come up for me that I have also been sharing with my clients.  I try to take cues from the energy around me and thought perhaps if both myself and my clients needed this reminder maybe you do too! When we are going through a transition of some sort it can feel very scary and anxiety fueled.  We tend to want to quickly rush through it and return to a perceived state of “normal.”

We want out of the discomfort.  Transitions can force us into a place of facing the traumas and self-limiting beliefs we are made of, and the new ones that continue to subconsciously shape us.  Quite simply it feels yucky to be in a place of emotional uncertainty and doubt and toe to toe with what we perceive is the worst in ourselves.  We reach for all sorts of unhealthy distractions: food, shopping, sex, alcohol, etc. rather than get curious. 

I am not implying it is easy, but I am encouraging you to slow down, harness patience and NOT to rush to “normal.”  Practice being in the present moment with the current ebbs and flows because, despite what it may seem, this time is very fertile soil.  It is rich with the opportunity to learn, expand and feel empowered. But only if you can be IN it.…and not in a rush to “just get it over with” and move past it.

This is not happening to you, it is happening for you.

You are smart,
capable and
powerful.

You more than deserve a big, full and abundant life.
It is meant for you as it is meant for all of us but up-leveling requires
the unequivocal willingness to be introspective.

I deeply believe in a higher energy that is rooting for us. (You too?)  If we can agree on this then we understand that everything that happens to us, even the panic-ridden, anxiety provoking, shitty stuff, happens for our benefit. We understand that below the superficial pain and whining of the ego, this experience/circumstance is happening for our and the world’s higher good.

If you understand this, then in times of stress and fear you ask yourself: 

:: What am I being called to learn here?
:: What is my assignment?
:: How could this be happening for my own good?

If you do not get an immediate answer, no worries. Just turn it over to that higher energy…and say:
“Please show me the problem so that it may be resolved.”
or  “I am willing to learn the lesson. Please show it to me.” 

I have personally been using the this mantra lately:

“I refuse to rush to normal. I know this is fertile soil. I am willing to learn.” 

I would love to hear your thoughts of this post and how you navigate and manage in times of transition.
Thank you so much for being here & I hope these words served you! xx

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Life was not easily falling into place… life was not in flow.

I was doing all of the “right things”: I was living life the way I “successfully” had in the past; applying a similar formula for success. But I still felt so uneasy… as if I was pushing against a brick wall.

Everything I accomplished seemed only to come as the result of a lot of hard work, time, and exhaustion. Anything I wanted to achieve only seemed to happen through struggle.

I executed a new marketing plan.
I switched up my workout regimen.
I drank even more green juices.
I bought a handful of new crystals.

And none of it worked for me.

I still went to bed exhausted and woke up exhausted.
There was still a lack of flow in my business.
Less people were visiting my website every month.
I was easily annoyed in my mommy-ing duties.
I had to see my therapist more often than usual.

How to Change Your Mindset When Life is Hard

In time, I came to understand (or perhaps, remember) that what was happening on the outside must be a result of misalignment on the inside. I had to stop trying to resolve my external chaos and confusion with more and more external methods.

An energetic shift was needed, and I was determined to make it happen.

For five months after that, I worked closely with master numerologist, astrologer, and tarot card reader. (And can I just say, dear ones — if you only understood a fraction of our connection to the stars, the planets, and the Universe, you would never feel alone again? You would wholly and completely remember — as I did — that you… we ARE the Universe.)

Finally, in November, I began to tap into my Akashic Records — through a former client of mine no less!

Akashic Records:

“The Akashic Records are the energetic records of all souls about their past lives, the present lives, and possible future lives. Each soul has its Akashic Records, like a series of books with each book representing one lifetime. The Hall (or Library) of the Akashic Records is where all souls’ Akashic Records are stored energetically. In other words, the information is stored in the Akashic field (also called zero point field). The Akashic Records, however, are not a dry compilation of events. They also contain our collective wisdom. The Akashic Records are a great resource, but it’s only a resource. How you utilize it in your life is up to you.”

I understand that the Akashic Records can be a very “woo-woo”, and unconventional concept for many people, so absorb what you can and simply put the rest to the side. (Or not. Both choices are ok.)

Through the Akashic Records, I connected with my guides. The guides exist in the non-physical plane and each person, each soul, comes to the planet with a team of spirit guides that watch over them like guardian angels. These guides are ascended masters, angels, archangels, saints, ancestors, and more. As such, they speak as a collective, addressing themselves as “we”.

When I speak with guide, the channel, she closes her eyes, clears her mind and then my team speaks using her voice and body to share messages of inspiration and growth.  It is not scary or off putting at all! It is simply like speaking to a friend and it is very clear when they are talking to me and when Solera herself is speaking–there are clear differences in her tone, intentions and body language when the guides are teaching.  

The more I connected with my guides, and the deeper I went into my spiritual studies and understanding, the more my life seemed to fall apart. The old was dying, so the new — something so much grander — could be born.

What Life Falling Apart is Teaching Me

Through it all, I was (and still am) learning:

1.  How to recognize the purpose of life
2. Why we have problems and have to relate to them
3. Who is the self you think you are
4. The most peaceful, supportive and abundant perspective to hold daily
5. How to stop doing life the hard way & instead let life happen easily around you and for you
6. How to move through life with less resistance
7. The immense power of our thoughts and focus & how to command the mind’s energy
8. Where real and lasting joy comes from
9. How to manifest what I want while being aware of common manifesting mistakes
10. The nature of change, destruction, and “natural fire”
11. What it means to spiritually wake up
12. The true nature of goals, planning, & where the deeper sense of meaning we all crave comes from
13. The reality about money and the material world
14. The #1 formula to follow for maximal abundance, ease, and flow
15. How to change my mind

. . . just to name a few.

And I want to share it all with you.
It’s too much for today. But over time I will share all that is being taught to me in the hopes that all that no longer serves you will be taken away as well.

I pray that what I share will strip you of:

1. Fear
2. Misunderstanding
3. Misperception
4. Anxiety
5. Loneliness
6. Pressure to be more or less
7. Narrow-mindedness
8. Restriction
9. The need to prove yourself worthy

. . . and the myriad forms of pain and suffering that consume the majority of your thoughts, and therefore, your life.

I know this is different from how I’ve taught before; how I’ve lived before.  How will you know if you can rely on and trust my words, suggestions and shared experiences?

You will know because it will resonate and make sense to you. You will hear an internal “yes.”

The truth is always very straightforward this way.

Until next time.
I love you so.

TT

That’s what I want to help you work on today.

Because if you’re reading here, I’m sure you’ve wondered: “Why am I the one who has to do all the work in my relationships?” Or maybe you’ve read countless books and attended even more seminars and workshops to improve your love life.

I feel you. I see you. And I so understand and empathize with the work you’ve put in.

Today I’m here to help you change the only thing you can: how you develop (and protect) your heart and mind from the get-go. And that means recognizing and understanding emotionally unavailable men from the start.

3 Traits to Know About Emotionally Distant Men

1.Emotionally unavailable men can be good men—AND still not be available.

This is an important point to start with, because I want to be clear that we are not demonizing emotionally unavailable men. They’re not all jerks and they don’t all hate love. They could very well just be clear that they don’t want to be in a relationship. Being simultaneously single and “off the market” only means that they are not serious about falling in love at this point—but that doesn’t make them bad guys.

2.Emotionally unavailable men can have positive traits too.

And you need to ignore them. Yes, they can be charming and sensitive and great communicators too—but if they don’t want to be your boyfriend, none of those qualities matter! (And, by the way, there are emotionally available men who have positive qualities, too!) With the emotionally unavailable sort, you need to ignore the positives and believe the negative traits for what they are: an indication that there is no long-term romantic future with this person.

3.Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the only ones at fault.

It’s not hard to spot an emotionally unavailable man: they’re non-committal and they go silent whenever they want. And sure, that behavior is on them, but it’s also your responsibility to read the signs. And furthermore, many men will be very honest and explicit about their intentions in dating you—they will say honestly that they’re not looking for a relationship. It’s your responsibility to take them at their word and not assume that you can “change their mind.” Respect their choice and their forthrightness and move on.

* * *

It’s not in your power to change an emotionally unavailable man; he has to be inspired to do that on his own. But you can focus on what is in your control: your tolerance for his lack of devotion or commitment.

Start by paying attention to his actions:

• If he is not not claiming you as his girlfriend . . .
• If there are substantial periods of silence in between dates . . .
• If he actually said: “I’m not looking for anything serious right now” . . .

. . . then he is unavailable. No matter how nice, attractive, successful, or funny he is—he is emotionally unavailable and you’re wasting your time.

But you don’t have to. Keep your heart open—but keep your eyes open too. Look for these signs and cut your losses when you see them.

You deserve to be in a fulfilling partnership where you’re both available for long-term love.

I’m talking to a client who has recently broken up with an amazing guy who worshiped the ground she floated over.

“Why did you walk away from him?”

“I don’t know, ” she said mystified and withdrawn.

“Could it be because you were afraid of having what you wanted?”  I offered.

Lightbulb.

Yes, that’s it.

Self sabotage is a bitch.
And she’ll cost you.

We reach for self sabotage when we fear our own empowerment.

Why?

Why?
Change can = pain.

So why push forward any.way. you can?
Because it’s worth it.

Know with every fiber of your being that what you want the most: the relationship, the career, the body, the chance– all lie on the other side of your willingness to change.

1. Analyze your motivations; get curious.
   
2. Why are you afraid to have what you want most?
   
3. Why are you NOT leaning in?
   
4. Curiosity packs the power to move you forward.
   
5. Let it.

Refuse and the long term pain of  sabotage has the potential to dismantle you. To rob you of who you seek to be;  of where you aspire to ascend to.

Self-sabotage will snatch from your clutches:

• relationships
• excellence
• carerrs
• progress
• body
• purpose
• confidence
• home
• curiosity
• dedication
• clarity
• cash flow
• kindness
• equilibrium
• communication
• aspiration
• commitment
• regard
• connection

How to stop self-sabotage in it’s tracks:

1. When you feel yourself edging out of your comfort zone (and then panicking and wanting to return to The Known), take a deep breath and remember: you’re not going to die.
2. When you find yourself engaging in sabotaging behavior – dating ‘Bad Boys,’ skipping the gym, missing deadlines, not returning the call, email, text – ask yourself “Is this getting me closer to where I want to go?”
3. When you’re avoiding The Hard Work you have to do to get where you want to go – the tough conversations, the long hours, the early morning workouts – say “I love myself enough to do this.”
4. Shelve your fear, loosen your shackles and desire a life of satisfaction
   more than you begrudge change; more than the pain of discovery
   and the responsibility of awareness.
5. And then act.