Yes, please do play, create and experiment with each elixir and tea infusion as you practice the steps within the emotional recipes. They are the perfect complement to one another, encompassing the exact same emotional and vibrational frequency. The design and formulation is the perfect partner to the inner work.

You are pure joy; never ending joy. Raise your own frequency and vibration through these pairings with intention, ease and elation.

Download your free Magic of Mishappenings Elixir Recipe above.

This month we’ve been exploring what to do and how to BE when life doesn’t go according to plan. Our minds are determined to go in one direction but it seems like The Universe is forcing us to take another path. Nothing can feel more frustrating and inconvenient as when life doesn’t go the way we want it to go!

Yet, when the unexpected happens it’s our chance to practice unlocking the magic of mishappenings.

Mishappenings are magic because they give us the opportunity to see a bigger picture and be open to new possibilities in a way our thinking mind can not at times. When life doesn’t go according to plan we can choose to force our agenda, usually met with great resistance by life, OR we can choose to go with the flow, as they say.

Going with the flow means NOT forcing the mind-made plan but being open to whatever is happening in the present moment. Greeting it with open arms as if it were a ginormous gift.

Because IT IS A GIFT.
If you can relate to that mishappening as a gift rather than as a hassle you will find that with presence and patience the gift will unfold in front of you. It may be the person that can help you is standing on the extra long line. It’s time to take that nap you deeply need. The plans get cancelled–in a good way. You’ll see. If you look for the gift you will find the gift, and if you look for the hassle you will find the hassle.

I’d much rather the gift.
Please follow the below steps as a way to practice unlocking the magic hidden within mishappenings.

Unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings: Steps 1-6

1. Set the intention: “My intention is to go with the flow and recognize any hidden gifts or possibilities that are available to me.”

2. When something isn’t going according to plan, don’t panic.
Literally give yourself a command out loud. Say: “Stop, don’t panic.”

3. Say: “Ok, it’s time to just take a deep breath.” Then take a deep breath.

4. Remind yourself: “Mishappenings are not random and this can be good for me even though it’s not what I had planned.”

5. Daydream

6. Do Nothing

To help guide you through the process of unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings, I’ve also put together a free downloadable PDF of the recipe. Click the image or button below to access.

“Ahhh…why CAN’T everything always go the way I want it to go?” you might say.
And yes, while I can totally relate to the frustration, I’ve also been learning that The Universe usually knows what’s in my highest interest better than my ego does.

I might want to rush to work at 80 miles an hour and pick up my almond milk cappuccino in under 3 minutes BUT The Universe throws extra traffic my way and a long line at the coffee shop. WHY? Because I am too busy in the mind therefore too busy in my life to receive guidance. I need to slow the BLEEP down so I don’t get in an accident, and so that I can meet the person on line at the coffee shop who can solve my graphic design questions, for example.

When the unexpected happens it’s nature’s way of saying “You need to take a pause right now and stop panicking. Stop doing whatever your mind believes it needs to do.” Being interrupted in this way is often a gift from The Universe.

Meaning: Mishappenings give us the opportunity to practice being more flexible rather than so rigid about our plans and thoughts. When we are flexible in the mind and therefore in life it’s like opening an abundant energetic door. A door that allows in new possibilities we most likely haven’t seen before.

When you’re flexible enough to “go with the flow,” (not forcing your mind-made agenda) you can receive the answers you have been seeking even if this situation wasn’t part of your original plan.

I am sharing this recipe as mini-workshops so that one video is not too long, and it makes the learning and practicing more simplistic. In today’s video I’ll discuss steps 4-6.

Unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings: Steps 4-6

4. Remind yourself: Mishappenings are not random and this can be good for me even though it’s not what I had planned.

5. Daydream. If you are caught in traffic or on a long line, for example, use this moment to think about what you really enjoy in life or about today. Daydream about what would be fun to do in the future or later tonight. Put on music you like and zone out. Look around the room and notice what colors you like, what paintings you admire, read the coffee menu and look for something new to try that sounds delicious.

6. Sometimes there is nothing to do. Simply take a deep breath and allow yourself to relax. If you’re at home maybe just take a nap or stare out a window for a few minutes.

To help guide you through the process of unlocking the Magic of Mishappenings, I’ve also put together a free downloadabl PDF of the recipe. Click the image or button below to access.

Over the last 6 days, you have prepped the energetic field in your home for love by:

• Daydreaming about dining with your future partner—and buying food to prepare for it!
• Cleaning your bathroom and making it a lovely space for two to share.
• Adding life to your office by decorating with plants.
• Cleaning out your closets and leaving space for your partner.
• Adding a reverent relationship altar to your living room.
• And buying new bed linens that make you feel comfortable and sexy—just like your future soulmate will!

Want a few more ideas?

• Try taking off your shoes, acknowledging the sacred space you’re entering into, and grounding yourself for a few seconds every time you walk through the front door.
• Write down your favorite positive affirmations and invitations and post them on notes found around your home.
• Keep your rooms fresh with oxygen flowing: open windows, add air purifiers, and add more plants!

I have said it before and I will say it again: it’s important to remember that all of this work isn’t just about preparing a space for your future partner or creating an environment that they will like. If you look at the list above, the core of this work is about creating a space that you love and envisioning the life you’ll one day share there together.

You have to love the space first, set the intention to share it with a partner, and make room for them to join you. It starts with you—always. Then, you set the intention and take action.

It has been such a joy to be on this journey with you so far. I hope to continue to support you and help you find all the love that is yours!
Today’s Action Step: Make a list of five (or more!) ways that you can love and enjoy your new space even before your soulmate arrives.

• Maybe you host a monthly dinner with friends.
  
•  Perhaps you find a special corner to read on Sunday mornings.
  
•  Whatever you choose, remember that you can feel the love you want to feel in your home long before your soulmate joins you. It always starts with you.

That wraps up our 7 days of preparing your home for love…..

It has been such a joy to be on this journey with you so far. I hope to continue to support you and help you find all the love that is yours!

I hope you are!

This was one of my favorite exercises to do, and I love doing this work with my clients, too. Because all of the tweaks and changes and fun, little additions you’re making aren’t just about your future partner—they’re about creating a space that makes you feel good. A space that you want to share with your person.

Plus, when you feel good, you call in even more good. It’s just common sense to create a space that you feel connected to and that helps you manifest the abundance (in relationships, finances, health, and more) that you really desire.

Speaking of feeling really, really good, today we’re going to focus on the room where you should always feel your best: your most comfortable, your most relaxed, your most luxurious.

Your bedroom.

Your bedroom should be your sanctuary. Your safe space.

So, start by surrounding yourself with items that you love. Start by removing electronics—a television, your computer, perhaps even your phone (old-school alarm clock, anyone?).

You might also want to consider the first thing that you see when you open your eyes. Does it make you happy? Does it lift your spirits? Is it a positive reminder of what a joy it is to wake up and see another day?

Set yourself up for happiness and success in the room where you first open your eyes in the morning and last close them before you go to sleep. Make it your sacred space, whatever that means to you.

Today’s Action Step: Buy bed linens that make you feel luxurious, sexy, sensual, and comfortable. And treat that sacred space with respect by making your bed every day—and washing those wonderful sheets often!

Sleep tight tonight!

That’s the beauty of this work—it’s not just about calling a soulmate; it’s about creating a space that you love and that makes you feel love. It’s a win-win both right now and when you’re deep in love with your new partner!

Today we’re going to spend some time in your living room. This may be yours alone or it may be a space you share with family or roommates—either way, you have the opportunity to make it your own.

Much like every other room of your home, it helps to make space and respect the room by keeping it clean. Clear out anything that no longer needs to be there—the artwork that no longer suits your style, the toys that should be up in the kids’ rooms, the magazines that you’ve yet to throw away because you haven’t read through them (but you know you never will)? Clear it out and make space for the things that bring you joy.

But cleaning up the space doesn’t mean taking the life out of it. Try using the living room for exactly what its name intends: living. Invite friends or family over for game nights or to catch up on your favorite show (“This Is Us”, amiright?). Start a puzzle with your roommates or buy a new book and keep it next to your favorite armchair, so you remember to pick it up as you drink your tea in the morning.

Most of all, I am really excited for you to try today’s action tip. This is about making a conscious effort to invite love and harmonious relationship into your space, and about creating a part of your most “lived-in” room that is dedicated to love—in all the myriad ways you can feel it.

Today’s Action Step: Add a relationship altar to your living room!
In feng shui, this is the southwest corner of the room, but you can pick whichever space works best for you. It doesn’t have to be ostentatious or obvious either (unless, of course, you want it to be).

Place items that represent love—either generally or specifically to you—on your altar:

1. rose quartz stones,
2. flower petals,
3. candles, a photo of lovers embracing.

Make it unique to you and treat it with the reverence that you hold for your future partnership.

I would love to see a photo of your altar after you’ve set it up! Share your photos with me on Instagram – tag @TiLaVenture.

Sending you so much love!

We’re halfway through the 7 Ways to Prepare Your Home For New Love Challenge today, and I promise you it gets even more fun from here! Today you’re going to be cleaning out your closets—literally.

I know that may sound less like “fun” and more like “spring cleaning”, but it doesn’t have to be a chore! This is an opportunity to review all of your extra baggage (again, quite literally), and even clear out items that may keep you stuck in the past or are no longer serving you.

It’s time to make space for something new.

(Like, ahem, your future soulmate’s winter coat.)

There may be one or there may be many closets in your house. Schedule time to go through each of them individually. I find it easiest to pull everything out, sort through each item one at a time, and return what I’m sure I want to keep.

Focus on keeping only those things that spark joy within you. This is a helpful framework, especially for the work that we’re doing this week: You want to call in love, so why not keep only those things you love around you?

Today’s Action Step: Clean out your closets!

1. Get rid of anything from your past that doesn’t belong in your future, and make room (quite literally) for the love you want to invite in!
2. Leave some extra hangers available and make a little space in your dresser for your future partner to fill.

Of course, what you decide to keep and what you decide to trash (or donate!) is entirely up to you. Just go through this physical purging process much as you would an emotional one: try to stay clear on what you want to keep in your life and what you want to call in—and get rid of anything that should just stay in your past.

Happy cleaning

On Day 3 of the 7 Ways to Prepare Your Home For New Love Challenge, we’re stepping inside of your office. We’re going to pay close attention to the place where you likely spend most of your waking hours, and get the most work done.

And though love is often associated with the color red, today we’re going GREEN.

Whether or not you have your own home office, work from a corporate office, or simply work from a tiny desk in the corner of your room, the fact remains that a lot of offices can be a little . . . well, stuffy.

Whether your space is big or little, requires a commute or is steps from your bedroom door – and whether or not you like the way your office is decorated, this is often the one room that lacks the most life. Literally.

So today we’re gonna breathe some freshness back into it!

Today’s Action Step:
Add life back to your office by accessorizing with plants.
Bonus points if the plant has heart-shaped leaves!

Houseplants are valuable for so many reasons beyond their beauty: they purify the air, they brighten up a room, they increase oxygen flow, and they reportedly even lower stress levels. No small feat for a little pot of leaves!

Plus, plants need to be taken care of—they should be watered, nourished, and spruced up from time to time. Taking care of your little potted friends will give you a sense of accomplishment and care even on days where it feels like nothing else on your to-do list is getting done!

Breathe some living, loving air back into your workspace—and invite new life (such as that of a soulmate partner) by adding literal life to the room. Let’s go green together!

One of the things you’re going to find out over the next few days is that calling in the love of your of your life starts with loving yourself—and your home and your food and your . . . bathroom!

Yes, your bathroom—which is where we’re hanging out today.

Obviously, this is one of the more private spaces in your home. But eventually, you’ll be sharing it with someone (if you’re not already)—and hopefully it will be with the one person with whom you’re the most intimate.

So what can you do to call your partner into such a private space now? (And why would you want to?) We’ll dig into that in today’s tip!

Today’s Action Step: Start making your bathroom an inviting space!

• Keep it clean
• Add fresh towels
• Buy some flowers to put on the sink
• Clear out a drawer for him and allow him to LITERALLY have space!
• And stack a few favorite books or magazines to read. (Ones that you BOTH might be interested in)

Your bathroom doesn’t need to be boring or messy or covered in hair products just because most of your business in there is done behind closed doors. Be proud of this room and make it just as special of a place to inhabit as any other room of your home.

While you and your future partner may not share a lot of time there together at the same time, make it a space where you’ll both want to spend time regardless.

Tomorrow we’ll talk about doing work in the room where you get the most work done.

Until then . .

TiLa

How are you feeling? Were you able to start clearing out the clutter yesterday? Comment below and let me know of a few of things you cleared out to make space for your new love—and to kick off this challenge!

And speaking of this challenge, we’re getting started right away with one of the more delicious rooms in your home: the kitchen. For many, the kitchen is a room of creation, of nourishment, of relaxation and play. And it should be!

But have you been truly treating it as such? It’s easy to forget the joys of a kitchen when you’re often in it alone. You tend to use it for its utilitarian purpose only: to find food, to eat it, and to leave.

And perhaps you’ve been stocking it exactly as you felt you need to: with items for yourself, and perhaps for your kids or roommates, too. But what about your future partner?

• What will they want to eat?
• What meals will you cook and share together?
• Will you plan stay-at-home date nights over a home-cooked meal and a bottle of red?
• What can you eat now that would make you feel love?

Think about the experiences you want to share with your partner in the kitchen—and start preparing for them now! Gather the recipes, stock up on the food and drink you want to share, set aside date nights on the calendar . . . even if (for now) you spend that precious time catching up with yourself.

Today’s Action Step: Go grocery shopping for your future partner!
What do you have ready and waiting for them to eat? Begin daydreaming about the meal you will one day (soon!) make and share together.