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How to be Happier Today: 36 Ideas to Climb Out of a Bad Mood

May 1, 2018

“NOTHING EVER WORKS OUT FOR MEEEEEE!” These are the words that I (rather melodramatically) whisper-shouted a few days ago while pawing through my bathroom cabinets. After a 16-hour work day and ages stuck in traffic, I’d officially reached that overtired, non-rational emotional state where just about anything will push you over the edge. And in this case? It was the discovery that I was out of toothpaste. Which was obviously the end of the world and probably a direct result of some failure on my part and indicative of my value as a human being. But I eventually unearthed a…

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Date the Partner Who is Sure He Wants to Date You!

March 20, 2017

I am fortunate enough to speak to, on average, 25 bright, gorgeous, spirited clients a week.  The majority of these clients are women–close to 90%– and they are exquisite. She is usually good at what she does and wants to be great or stuck in some area of her life and wants to get unstuck. She is intelligent, compassionate, successful and accomplished in many senses of the word yet, deeply afraid of being left behind in romance and partnership.  So much so that she spends exorbitant amounts of energy repressing, and quite honestly, disrespecting what she wants in relationship in…

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Health & Wellness, Home, Inspiration + Spirituality, Life, Relationships, Dating & Sex, View All, Work & Career

A 5 Step Plan for Taking Control of Your Life

March 20, 2017

Leadership skills are highly valued in our fast-paced, hustling culture. We look up to, emulate, and follow the advice of well-respected people who work hard, make tough decisions, and lead by example. But it’s not just organizations that need solid leaders. The most powerful place from which to lead is actually your own life. When’s the last time you felt fully in control of your life—on top of your to-do’s, aligned with your goals, fulfilled in every area of life that’s most important to you? This question isn’t meant to make you feel bad; it’s not easy (and not necessarily…

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Online Dating: Learn the #1 Tip To Finding a Great Man

March 20, 2017

You might feel like you’re the only single person left on the planet. And you could probably imagine a number of reasons why that may be true: Every man I meet online is a loser, a liar, or a cheat. Men are intimidated by my success. There are no good men left! All of that dating disappointment can take a toll; it’s understandable why you may feel like giving up. But I hope you won’t. And here’s why: You’re not alone. And you haven’t got it all right, especially when it comes to successful online dating. The problem with black-or-white…

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How to Move Out & On After a Breakup: A Compassionate Guide

March 20, 2017

Today’s blog post is my response to a reader’s question regarding how to break up with someone you live with and what to do about moving on after a breakup. It all comes back to setting up respectful, clear boundaries after a relationship has ended. Read on for the full scoop. Dear TiLa, I moved to a new city last fall with my boyfriend of 2.5 years and everything seemed to change. We slowly started to grow apart and I decided I wanted different things out of life. So just a couple of weeks ago (after about 5 months of…

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The Surprising Key To Feeling Confident is Simpler Than You Think

March 20, 2017

There are days where I wake up feeling negative, overwhelmed, disappointed. Days where I am convinced that I have fallen short, am less than, not good enough—almost immediately upon opening my eyes! It’s not that I don’t have anything to be grateful for, and it’s not that I don’t know how blessed I am. It’s just that I—like you, I imagine—forget that sometimes. Why It’s so Hard to Feel like Enough And while it’s not great; it is natural: Our brains have a natural negativity bias. Left to its own devices, our brain will always assume (and assure us) that…

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4 Signs You Should Breakup With Him

December 22, 2016

We’ve all been there. You and your honey have been together forever and a day. You’ve even mentally designed the ideal wedding,  kitchen island counter-top and  the kids’ grammar school graduation. But lately, the relationship is hitting the skids and getting through an average day feels like wading through knee-deep Mississippi mud. You thought you’d found “the one,” but recently you’ve been left second guessing. How can you tell when your relationship has gone on too long?  I’ve outlined four sure-fire ways to knowing  when it’s time to hit the road. 1: You want different things from life. Or you…

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How to Calm Down When You Feel Crazy Stressed

December 19, 2016

Stress. We’ve all felt it. We stress about work. About bills. About love (or our lack thereof). We stress about those things we can control and those things we cannot. Stress, it seems, is a natural part of human life—but it doesn’t have to run your life. It doesn’t need to be enduring. We don’t have to just sit back and take it. When you feel stress creeping into your life, there are steps you can take to come back to normal, to equilibrium, to peace. And they can be affordable, too! (Because getting a massage once a week isn’t…

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The Surprising Relationship Between the Actions You’re Taking & the Results You’re Getting in Life

December 18, 2016

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a vicious cycle? You say you’re ready for love, but you’re only attracted to emotionally unavailable men. You want a better work-life balance, but you insist you need to work longer hours to advance your career. You want to have a healthier relationship to your body, but you can’t give up the excessive cocktails. As much as you claim to know what you want, you’re “stuck” in a frustrating cycle of bad habits that not only keep you from reaching your goals — but creates the same feelings of deep dissatisfaction and lack over and over…

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How to Break Bad Habits by Creating Meaningful Rituals

December 17, 2016

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a vicious cycle? You say you’re ready for love, but you’re only attracted to emotionally unavailable men. You want a better work-life balance, but you insist you need to work longer hours to advance your career. You want to have a healthier relationship to your body, but you can’t give up the excessive cocktails. As much as you claim to know what you want, you’re “stuck” in a frustrating cycle of bad habits that not only keep you from reaching your goals — but creates the same feelings of deep dissatisfaction and lack over and over…

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