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How to Easily Spot an Emotionally Unavailable Man & 3 Traits To Look For

July 25, 2018

Most women know better than to try and connect with an emotionally unavailable man—the problem is that we’re not always as adept at reading the signs when we see them (or rather, admitting that the signs are there). That’s what I want to help you work on today. Because if you’re reading here, I’m sure you’ve wondered: “Why am I the one who has to do all the work in my relationships?” Or maybe you’ve read countless books and attended even more seminars and workshops to improve your love life. I feel you. I see you. And I so understand…

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Self Sabotage Is A Bitch

May 1, 2018

Allow me to set the scene: I’m talking to a client who has recently broken up with an amazing guy who worshiped the ground she floated over. “Why did you walk away from him?” “I don’t know, ” she said mystified and withdrawn. “Could it be because you were afraid of having what you wanted?”  I offered. Lightbulb. Yes, that’s it. Self sabotage is a bitch. And she’ll cost you. We reach for self sabotage when we fear our own empowerment. We think it’s easier to stay where we are. To dig our heels in + keep carrying on in the same ol’…

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Date the Partner Who is Sure He Wants to Date You!

March 20, 2017

I am fortunate enough to speak to, on average, 25 bright, gorgeous, spirited clients a week.  The majority of these clients are women–close to 90%– and they are exquisite. She is usually good at what she does and wants to be great or stuck in some area of her life and wants to get unstuck. She is intelligent, compassionate, successful and accomplished in many senses of the word yet, deeply afraid of being left behind in romance and partnership.  So much so that she spends exorbitant amounts of energy repressing, and quite honestly, disrespecting what she wants in relationship in…

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A 5 Step Plan for Taking Control of Your Life

March 20, 2017

Leadership skills are highly valued in our fast-paced, hustling culture. We look up to, emulate, and follow the advice of well-respected people who work hard, make tough decisions, and lead by example. But it’s not just organizations that need solid leaders. The most powerful place from which to lead is actually your own life. When’s the last time you felt fully in control of your life—on top of your to-do’s, aligned with your goals, fulfilled in every area of life that’s most important to you? This question isn’t meant to make you feel bad; it’s not easy (and not necessarily…

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Online Dating: Learn the #1 Tip To Finding a Great Man

March 20, 2017

You might feel like you’re the only single person left on the planet. And you could probably imagine a number of reasons why that may be true: Every man I meet online is a loser, a liar, or a cheat. Men are intimidated by my success. There are no good men left! All of that dating disappointment can take a toll; it’s understandable why you may feel like giving up. But I hope you won’t. And here’s why: You’re not alone. And you haven’t got it all right, especially when it comes to successful online dating. The problem with black-or-white…

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How to Move Out & On After a Breakup: A Compassionate Guide

March 20, 2017

Today’s blog post is my response to a reader’s question regarding how to break up with someone you live with and what to do about moving on after a breakup. It all comes back to setting up respectful, clear boundaries after a relationship has ended. Read on for the full scoop. Dear TiLa, I moved to a new city last fall with my boyfriend of 2.5 years and everything seemed to change. We slowly started to grow apart and I decided I wanted different things out of life. So just a couple of weeks ago (after about 5 months of…

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4 Signs You Should Breakup With Him

December 22, 2016

We’ve all been there. You and your honey have been together forever and a day. You’ve even mentally designed the ideal wedding,  kitchen island counter-top and  the kids’ grammar school graduation. But lately, the relationship is hitting the skids and getting through an average day feels like wading through knee-deep Mississippi mud. You thought you’d found “the one,” but recently you’ve been left second guessing. How can you tell when your relationship has gone on too long?  I’ve outlined four sure-fire ways to knowing  when it’s time to hit the road. 1: You want different things from life. Or you…

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How to Calm Down When You Feel Crazy Stressed

December 19, 2016

Stress. We’ve all felt it. We stress about work. About bills. About love (or our lack thereof). We stress about those things we can control and those things we cannot. Stress, it seems, is a natural part of human life—but it doesn’t have to run your life. It doesn’t need to be enduring. We don’t have to just sit back and take it. When you feel stress creeping into your life, there are steps you can take to come back to normal, to equilibrium, to peace. And they can be affordable, too! (Because getting a massage once a week isn’t…

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How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You (in 3 Simple Steps)

October 5, 2016

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’m just not ready to forgive them yet?” I get that feeling. Truly, I do. When you’ve been wronged or betrayed or hurt, it can take months—sometimes years—before you feel ready to forgive and move on. The problem is that being unforgiving harms you far more than it harms the person who hurt you. Holding on to anger, resentment, and a sense of betrayal permeates every part of your life—from your health to the success of future relationships. Thankfully, you don’t need to feel ready to forgive. Forgiveness is a deliberate act. You can…

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10 Refreshing Ways to Revive Your Romantic Relationship

June 21, 2016

Even in the best relationships things can get “rusty”. You might be bored, may start to take each other for granted, may be fighting (or not communicating at all). But not to worry—this isn’t always an indication of unhappily ever after! Once you know that things have gotten a bit stale, you can put in the “work” (it’s fun, I promise!) to revive the love that brought you together in the first place. Here are 10 fun and unique ideas for refreshing your romantic relationship: Do Daily “Good Feeling” Deposits You know those things you say or do that make…

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