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How to Move Out & On After a Breakup: A Compassionate Guide

Today’s blog post is my response to a reader’s question regarding how to break up with someone you live with and what to do about moving on after a breakup. It all comes back to setting up respectful, clear boundaries after a relationship has ended. Read on for the full scoop. Dear TiLa, I moved to a new city last fall with my boyfriend of 2.5 years and everything seemed to change. We slowly started to grow apart and I decided I wanted different things out of life. So just a couple of weeks ago (after about 5 months of…

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4 Signs You Should Breakup With Him

We’ve all been there. You and your honey have been together forever and a day. You’ve even mentally designed the ideal wedding,  kitchen island counter-top and  the kids’ grammar school graduation. But lately, the relationship is hitting the skids and getting through an average day feels like wading through knee-deep Mississippi mud. You thought you’d found “the one,” but recently you’ve been left second guessing. How can you tell when your relationship has gone on too long?  I’ve outlined four sure-fire ways to knowing  when it’s time to hit the road. 1: You want different things from life. Or you…

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Fashion, Health & Wellness, Inspiration + Spirituality, Life, Relationships, Dating & Sex, Self Love, View All, Work & Career

How to Calm Down When You Feel Crazy Stressed

Stress. We’ve all felt it. We stress about work. About bills. About love (or our lack thereof). We stress about those things we can control and those things we cannot. Stress, it seems, is a natural part of human life—but it doesn’t have to run your life. It doesn’t need to be enduring. We don’t have to just sit back and take it. When you feel stress creeping into your life, there are steps you can take to come back to normal, to equilibrium, to peace. And they can be affordable, too! (Because getting a massage once a week isn’t…

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Health & Wellness, Inspiration + Spirituality, Life, Self Love, View All

The Surprising Relationship Between the Actions You’re Taking & the Results You’re Getting in Life

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a vicious cycle? You say you’re ready for love, but you’re only attracted to emotionally unavailable men. You want a better work-life balance, but you insist you need to work longer hours to advance your career. You want to have a healthier relationship to your body, but you can’t give up the excessive cocktails. As much as you claim to know what you want, you’re “stuck” in a frustrating cycle of bad habits that not only keep you from reaching your goals — but creates the same feelings of deep dissatisfaction and lack over and over…

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Inspiration + Spirituality, Life, Self Love, View All

How to Break Bad Habits by Creating Meaningful Rituals

Do you ever find yourself in the middle of a vicious cycle? You say you’re ready for love, but you’re only attracted to emotionally unavailable men. You want a better work-life balance, but you insist you need to work longer hours to advance your career. You want to have a healthier relationship to your body, but you can’t give up the excessive cocktails. As much as you claim to know what you want, you’re “stuck” in a frustrating cycle of bad habits that not only keep you from reaching your goals — but creates the same feelings of deep dissatisfaction and lack over and over…

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Health & Wellness, Inspiration + Spirituality, Life, Self Love, View All

7 Essential Tricks To Make New Habits Stick

This time it’s for real. You’re really going to give up coffee. You’re really, actually going to start the day with 10 minutes of meditation and journaling. You’re seriously going to start hunting for a better, more fulfilling job. Sound familiar? (Me, too.) We all love a fresh start. It’s invigorating to brush off the cobwebs and take steps towards a new life. But a few weeks in, you might find yourself dragging your feet and falling back into your old habits of coffee and Netflix and complaining about your job while doing zip about it. If this is you, don’t…

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The Perfectly Imperfect Project: Real Self Care

I’m a huge, huge proponent of self-care.  I do my best to give my mind, heart, and body the love they deserve.   Sometimes that means letting go of relationships that aren’t working. Sometimes that means forgiving. Sometimes that means finally hiring an intern to help juggle the million little things that go into maintaining an internet presence. Or, sometimes that means walking + manicures + snacks. Here are a few of the things I do to love myself. :: Walking around my neighborhood at least once a week on Saturday or Sunday, with my daughter. Walking on the weekend with nature reminds me…

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Anxiety, Life, Self Love, View All

How Trying to Feel Better is Actually Making You Feel Worse

“I shouldn’t feel this way,”  I silently told myself. “I should really be more grateful. Look at all the stuff I have to be grateful for! What’s wrong with me? Ok… ok… ok… what do I need to do to feel more grateful?” THIS is the conversation loop that swirls through my head when I’m feeling a way I think I shouldn’t be feeling. At first blush of a painful, inconvenient feeling should we not be stammering to: a walk, a call with a friend, an uplifting podcast or Youtube video? I certainly thought so. But maybe aggressively trying to…

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Inspiration + Spirituality, Life, Self Love, View All

What I Do When I Need to Know Everything is Going to Be OK

In some ways we all have a childhood we are recovering from.  Many of us have grown up in a simultaneously complicated yet loving, uncertain but supportive family environment.  As a result we come to many erroneous conclusions about who we are, what the world is, and what is required from us to be OK, let alone “succeed” at life. And as I see it, that same lot of us spend decades trying to unlearn and undo these false narratives. Steadfastly searching for a renewed sense of joy, freedom, and expansion. I too have current and past struggles to clear……

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